As the passing vessel, your goal should be passing with the smallest possible wake. When passing in a controlled speed or no-wake zone, extra caution will be needed to prevent throwing a big wake that could dislodge dishes or topple passengers. But, at higher speeds, judgment should come into play. Sometimes slowing down might actually produce a larger wake and prolong the damaging wake. Staying on plane and giving a bit more room might produce much less wake. Also, keep in mind that slowing at the wrong time can plow up an especially large wake as your boat settles off plane.